12 Questions to ask an adoptive family

We’ve helped hundreds of birthmothers place their babies, and we know that one of the most stressful decisions in the adoption process is choosing the adoptive family. It’s a huge decision – there’s nothing wrong with feeling nervous when you talk to a prospective couple for the first time.

After looking through the various family profiles and photos, you’ve got a pretty good handle on who the family is – you know how they met, what their family is like, what they do for a living, and what they do for fun… But what you don’t know is who they REALLY are.

It’s perfectly normal to feel nervous the first time you talk to the people who might be adopting your baby. We’ve put together a list of important questions to ask that will help you get a feel for the family – so you’ll feel more comfortable talking to them and more secure in your decision.

Don’t be afraid to ask tough questions – you want to be sure you’ve chosen the right family for your baby!

Questions to ask adoptive parents:

1. Why did you decide to adopt?

2. Do you plan to have any more children?

3. Does your extended family support your choice to adopt?

4. Are you religious and do you attend church regularly?

5. What’s your parenting style and how will you discipline your child (or children)?

6. Will one of you be staying home with the baby, or will you go back to work and use childcare?

7. How many hours a week do you work, and how do you make time for family?

8. How often do you think you’ll travel as a family?

9. Do you have friends living near you with small children?

10. How do you plan on talking the adoption with my child when he/she is older?

11. What would your ideal relationship with me be like?

12. How will you refer to me when you talk to my child about me?

Remember – Lifetree is here to help make this process as easy as possible for you! Let us know if you’re stressed out or feeling uncomfortable – you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.